“but knew her not until she had given birth to a son. And he called his name Jesus.” – Matthew 1:25 ESV


When an individual repents of their sins and places their faith and trust in the Lord Jesus Christ, there’s an inward transformation that takes place. The Bibles teaches that a person moves from death to life and becomes a “new creation” where “the old has gone and the new has come.” (John 5:24, 2 Corinthians 5:17) The only way this is possible is for the Spirit of God to come down and do the transformative work. One of the beautiful realities of the Christian faith is that we’ve been given a divine helper – the Holy Spirit.

It’s impossible to live the Christian life apart from the power that comes from the Spirit. He helps us, comforts us, reminds us, and gives us fruit that reflects the character and nature of Christ. (Galatians 5:22-23) One of the most underrated fruit of Spirit is the fruit of “self-control.” The reality is you can make war with the flesh and your sinful nature and come out on top. You can win the battle!

We find here in Matthew 1:25, that Joseph demonstrated a commendable lifestyle of self-control with his new wife Mary. We can go to Jesus today and ask Him to help us have that same Christ-like self-control and discipline over our urges, nature, and temptations. You can go to Him today: “…for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” – Galatians 5:22–23


Lord, thank You for the gift of self-control. I acknowledge that in my own strength I’m not the strong enough. I’m not wise enough. I’m not self-controlled enough. I need Your help. Help me to walk in the Spirit, and not in my flesh. When I get upset, tempted, and discouraged – I pray I wouldn’t respond in a way that dishonors Your name. Help to have Your self-control.

Holy Spirit calm, lead me, and guide me. In Jesus name, amen!